Your starter relay is mounted under the l/h kick panel on the drivers side. You will find it just below the hood release cable. Does your key have a pellet in it? If it does, then you have a VATS(vehicle anti-theft system) installed in your car. If this is the case you have one of the following conditions. 1. blown 10 amp fuse for the VATS. 2. worn contact points in the ignition lock for the coded pellet. 3. the pellet itself might be worn. 4. the wire going to the VATS module from the ignition lock might be disconnected or broken. 5. the VATS control module might be bad. If you are interested in troubleshooting your problem, I have the wiring schematic for your model car.
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